As today is the day after Halloween, the scariest
night of the year, I thought it would be a good time
to think about our fears and phobias. Nearly
everyone has a fear of something and quite often
these fears will limit us in some way. A fear of flying
may stop us from leaving the country on holiday; a
fear of public speaking may reduce our career
prospects; and a fear of crowds of people could even
stop us leaving the house. Even the most minor
fears will also be stopping us living our life to the full
in some way.
As a first step towards becoming fearless, think
about what you are scared of and write them all
down as a list. You may be surprised how many
there are - when I first did this I nearly filled a page!
Now next to each fear you have named note how
this is limiting you. In other words, what is this
fear stopping you from doing or achieving.
Next go back through the list and imagine what your
life would be like if all these limits were removed and
you could do anything you wanted, when you
wanted. Wouldn't that be liberating?
The next stage is to apply EFT to as many of these
fears as you want to, and why not eradicate them
all? Why would you want to hold on to any of
them? When you have a true fear or phobia the last
thing you want to do if 'face your fear' so I'm going
to talk you through how to apply EFT in a pain free
way.
First of all imagine yourself being confronted with the
fear. Whether it's a spider, a great height or an
interview panel, picture it in your mind as vividly as
possible. (If even imagining the fear would be far too
distressing for you, skip this stage to keep the
process pain free).
Once you have that image grade your fear on a scale
of 0 to 10, 0 being no fear and 10 the most intense
fear. Then apply a round of EFT using the phrase:
"Even though I have this fear of I deeply
and completely accept myself". Remember to keep
the image vivid in your mind as you tap each point
and say "this fear" to keep you focussed. (If you
skipped the first stage to avoid becoming too
distressed, when you tap the points still say "this
fear" but don't picture the problem as vividly. After
a couple of rounds this way, you may feel that you
won't be as distressed and you can try imagining the
fear more vividly.)
After a round of EFT think about it again and see
how you are on the 0 to 10 scale. Keep going with
more EFT rounds until you reach 1 or 0.
Once you are happy thinking about the thing that
made you scared, now try confronting yourself with
it. If it's easier for you, and possible with your fear,
use a photograph to tap on at first. Tap more
rounds of EFT if there is some fear left, and continue
until you feel completely happy being confronted by
the thing that once scared you. To make sure this is
a pain free process, you shouldn't do this until you
really are a zero. Why suffer when you don't need
to?
If you try this out, let me know how you get on
applying EFT to your fears and phobias.
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